So I ‘ve already had the question asked ‘what is the law of attraction?’ (thanks to everyone for reading my blog by the way). Have you ever heard the saying ‘you reap what you sow?’. Well that’s pretty much it. This universal law is at the foundation for everything and everyone that we experience in our lives. We attract what we put out there in the universe..and what we put out there are thoughts, words, and actions. I probably don’t do this explaination justice, so I strongly encourage you to google law of attraction and see what you get. I personally enjoy the book The Secret. There is a DVD too (although it reaks of product placement and is very info-mercial like).
When I realized that there were tangible things that I could do to teach my kids about this law, I immediately started.
When I first sat down with my kids and talked to them about this concept they were about 5 and 7 years old and the weird thing is that it wasn’t news to them. It just seemed to make sense to them right away. Of course it did, because children and born with this knowledge already…and through our own experiences of life, we inadvertantly teach them otherwise.
Lesson 1 for our Family.
The first thing we did was to agree that we would change some of the words that we used with each other. As much as possible we would try not to use the words ‘no’ or ‘don’t’. According to the law of attraction, using this word would attract more of those things that we had said ‘no’ too in the first place. Check out this link explaining the concept on you tube. . This is so hard to do for me, especially when trying to parent a difficult child. But I swear it works. When I do manage to remember to only spin things into the positive, things just remain positive.
Last week we averted a major meltdown by using this technique. It went something like this…
My son started jumping on his bed before bedtime and my immediate instinct was to say ‘ don’t jump on the bed’. But this is an instance where I actually stopped myself first and tried to remember the law of attraction (although it’s sooo hard at times).
me: (son), why are you jumping on your bed again?
me: ok. I know you like it when the covers are placed in just a certain way and jumping on the covers makes them all messy. I can see you feel like jumping. I would love to see you jump on the floor.
me: yes really. I bet you’re an awesome floor jumper.
My son proceeded to jumping on the spot on the floor of his bedroom for approx. 5 minutes then tired himself out completely and climbed into bed no problems when I asked him. The next night before bed I caught him jumping in his bedroom again, and again on the same spot on the floor.
son: mom, look you said I was an awesome jumper.
me: yes you are.
He hasn’t jumped on his bed since, and after a few days, quickly tired of jumping on his bedroom floor. I know this seems like such a small thing, but with difficult children, these small things turn into huge meltdowns when they are challenged. To us, this is a big thing.
I have to admit that it’s challenging to keep parenting this way. But it makes such a difference in our lives.
Next time…lesson 2…the Vision Board (teaching the kids about visualizing what it is they want.)
Followed by lesson 3…give and you will receive (teaching the kids that the more you give to others, the more you receive.
Until next time,
Peace and Love