I realize it has been a long time since my last post…and I’ve probably lost my readers!
But for a while there, I had lost my MOJO temporarily…and now I’m on the mend! I’m in the midst of taking my third level of Reiki and it has re-centred me, and I’m starting to feel grounded again. It happens to all of us once in a while!
A lot has happened since my last post. I have had once again a meeting with the principal and teacher at my son’s school. I think they get the picture now. I’m my son’s advocate…his champion…and nothing will get in my way of me trying to get him the services that he needs in order to learn the traditional school subjects of the educational system. I believe they are important, it’s just how to teach them that should vary. But alas, it doesn’t. Not yet.
In my research regarding treating ADHD naturally, the same theme always seems to stand out…nutrition. I am not a doctor or a naturopath, I am a parent. Even better, I am an observant parent. Without having read too much on varying affects of foods on ADHD children I can tell you without a doubt that sugar, chocolate and dairy, all have a significant impact on the behaviour of my son. I can also tell you that having my yougnest take OMEGA oils each day, has had a similar impact on him as his previous ADHD medication did. Continue reading
As I mentioned in a previous blog, I anticipated a call shortly after school started regarding my ‘adhd’ son. Then one day last week, the call came. The school wanted to meet with us to discuss how to ‘meet his educational needs’. So off we went, both my husband and I, to meet with the teacher, the principal and a resource worker…all in a small back room, to discuss my son.
Someone asked me the other day where my hubby stood in regards to my new age approach to parenting. I have to say, that I married a sweet man, however he is most possibly the most negative person that I know. When I first started talking about Reiki the conversations went mostly like this:
‘I went to Chapters today and I bought my Reiki manual.”
“Your what? Your Ranki manual?”
“Reiki, honey, REE-KEE!”
“Oh, how much did this Reker manual cost?”
“Whatever, how much did it cost?”
In my last post I mentioned how wonderful I believe Reiki is on ADHD children, and children in general. However, my being able to practise Reiki on my children wasn’t always so easy. The first step was explaining Reiki to my young sons.
So how to you explain Reiki to young children? Well, I am not the ultimate authority on that, or anything else for that matter, but I can share with you my experience. I spent days trying to figure out how to explain Reiki to my children. It wasn’t until a few weeks ago that my youngest son explained it for me…in one word.
My previous post dealt with my preparations in anticipation for dealings with my son’s school and teacher. This is ongoing…and we haven’t met yet. (Trust me, you’ll hear all about it).
In this post however, I want to tell you about my experiences using Reiki on my ADHD/Oppositional son. ( I have to reiterate that the only reason I use the term ADHD and Oppositional is as a point of reference for those who do not yet know my stance on the issue…if it were up to me, I’d call it something else).
Back to Reiki. So what is Reiki? Google Reiki and see what you get. It comes back with over 22 million references to the word. Reiki is not as foreign or uncommon as what I had initially thought either. It turns out, that it’s just not talked about that much in general circles (or my own personal circles I guess).
Now that school is back in session I am once again faced with dealing with my son’s non-conformist attitude to school and learning. Already I have received notes from the teacher regarding his ‘disruptive’ behaviour and his trouble concentrating during lessons. I think these subtle, friendly ‘just thought you should know’ notes are simply the appetizer before we are asked to come to the school to discuss the main course, or ‘options’ for my son. These ‘options’ mostly involve some sort of psychosocial drug intervention in the form of a little blue pill.
This is where the school and I disagree.
Although I am big fan of the book ‘The Secret’ I do find that there is a fundamental point missing –that of needing to take ‘action’ to get what you want. Although I firmly believe in the law of attraction, I also believe in hard work. Someone watching the DVD or reading the book mentioned above may easily come to the conclusion that all you have to do is ‘ask’ and then simply wait to receive.
I’m not so sure it works that way…but my oldest son certainly did.
Last week was hockey tryouts for a regional competitive team. This is the team that all of the nhl wannabees ‘wanna be’ on. My son included. I had made it a point in the weeks leading up to the tryouts, not to talk to my son about LOA…his own pressures were enough. During the week of tryouts, he skated his heart out, went for the puck, and didn’t let the bigger kids get the best of him.
But then his world came crashing down. The coach pulled him and my husband aside into a little room and broke the news that he had not made the team and would not be called back for practise. Ouch. That night he came home very quiet, took a shower, and went to bed. Not a peep. When I went to kiss him goodnight, he turned his face towards mine and said…
‘The law of attraction sucks!’
I was discussing the law of attraction with a friend of mine the other day and she made a comment to me that has stuck with me since then. She said, ‘You know, you can’t teach children that they can have whatever they want in life.”
Is that true? At which point in history did we decide that? Does that imply that I raising my children with values that would encourage them to want inappropriate things? I am raising my children with core values and a straightforward set of rules. I believe that if I truly do a good job with these 2 items, that what they ask for in life will never be inappropriate.
I realize that anyone can discount the stories that I am posting as simply ‘coincidences’. A few years ago I would have said the very same thing. However, I now chose to believe that is no such thing as coincidences anymore, and that everything happens for a reason. More than that, I chose to believe that I can direct my own destiny and things ‘happen’ in line with what I have destined for myself. This is what I have taught my own children.
The second example of a child using the Law of Attraction comes from a friend of a friend…but I still think it’s awesome.